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How do we forget details of our abuse while having intercourse with our partners.
The image or the thought just appears while playing around before sex or while having intercourse?

It can be very difficult to forget or to remove the images that you are receiving as you are having sexual relations. This is because the activity that you are engaging in, is touching energy that you have stored in your body when you were abused and this energy is tapping into your conscious mind and is reliving the experiences. These images interfere with your ability to be intimate as well as to have satisfying sexual relations.

There are quite a number of ways to rid oneself of unwanted energy, but abusive energy can be very difficult to get rid of by oneself. There are quite a number of factors. One is that when getting rid of negative energy one has to replace it with more positive energy. This can be almost impossible because as the energy is leaving the body it will create very intense negative emotions and feelings. That is why a loving healer sending in positive energy into the body to replace the negative energy works.

Second there can be an unconscious desire to hold onto the negative energy; fear, revenge, self protection etc.... Again a healer can help to identify what these unconscious desires and defense mechanisms are and make them more conscious and help to clear the path for the letting go of the negative energy.

I guess in the final statement is that it isn't easy to rid oneself of abusive behavior. It takes time and patience and the help of others. It isn't something that can be done by oneself. So trusting in someone, who is a professional at healing victims of abuse should be to road that you should travel if it is truly your desire to be well.

One last point. The fact that you are re-experiencing these images and feeling, says that you are ready on a conscious level to deal with them. That now is your time to confront these energies, to become healthier and happier in your life. So don't stop! Now is your time to grab it and do something!

I was wondering if a person can be healed if they have really bad habits such as disrespectful, extremely violent anger, bad hygiene, vulgar language, extreme addictions of alcohol, meat and tobacco and they do not think that they have a problem or need to change plus they also have prejudices against women and their roles in the Indian society. they do not think anything is wrong with them. Can they change through long distance healing without them knowing?

It seems that the person that you are referring to is in a lot of "shit". Sorry for the French.

One thing that is so profound about healing is that there has to be a willingness are the part of the sick individual to want to be healed. Healing is a joint effort, it isn't one person imposing their will upon another. That situation is negative and healing doesn't happen in negative states.

So I can't impose my will upon another person and demand that they be healed. They must seek me out. And from what you are describing to me this is a person who is very dysfunctional and will most likely, not never seek me out on his own. There are quite a number of Chakras that are blocked, which will prevent him from seeing clearly and in those moments of clarity, (because he does have those moments) his situation must feel so frightening to him that he refuses to face who he is and thus chooses to run back into the fog.

My concern however is for you. What is your relationship to this person and why are you still around. His negative energy must affect you in adverse ways and trying to change him isn't within your power nor is it within mines. I seems you have a liken for being the victim and seeing yourself against him, so you can appear clean. It is always easy to look at others than to look at ourselves.

It reminds of the way very young children will tell on a friend, so that can say, see I'm good and he isn't.

But if you felt clean within yourself, there wouldn't be any need to do this, nor would you be able to tolerate being around such a seriously spiritually sick individual. The light and the dark can't co-exist.

Also don't forget that negative energy is more powerful than positive energy on this physical plane, so don't think for a minute that you can over come him with positive intentions.

I'm sorry if I'm sounding very harsh, but it is important that YOU see clearly YOUR situation and make some changes that are necessary to save yourself!

3. I RECENTLY SEXUALLY FORCED A GIRL INTO HAVING SEX. BUT THE QUESTION REALLY IS... I still think of doing it again to someone else and I do not know how to get rid of the desire. Please let me know how to overcome it.

As I have said in quite a bit of my articles, that any type of behavior that is habitual and uncontrollable is energy stored in the body. This energy acts of its own accord and it isn’t controllable by the conscience mind. It is my belief that ridding oneself of this energy is the way in which one can over come these habits and behavioral patterns.

I will seriously suggest that you reach out to a local energy healer, like myself who can help you to rid yourself of this energy, otherwise you will find yourself behind bars. If you allow it to come to that then your healing might take on a more karmic behavioral tone, that I am sure, you will not want to experience.

I will say this again! It is your responsibility to help yourself! Be aggressive in your quest! Don't give up! Just contacting me is an empowering experience, but don't stop there. This energy can be removed! Now that you know. Do something before something is done to you.

4. Is there a short version of Reiki with instructions and pictures for me to demonstrate?

I'm a little confused about "short version". Please don't forget that Reiki is an energy. It flows through the body of the practitioner, so I'm a little confused about how you would "demonstrate" this energy.

If you are talking about the attunements and the symbols that go along with the attunements, then these can be obtained from various books on Reiki.

On the other hand, I have heard of an accelerated version of Reiki, that gives people the ability to be Reiki Masters in just one weekend. It is my firm belief that Reiki attunements have to be earned! It is a spiritual gift and requires some work on the part of the receiver to get the attunement. When I say work I mean one's own spiritual development and most of the time this process takes more than just three days.

I know from my own personal experience that every-time I have received a spiritual gift, there is always some required work on my part, sometimes before, sometimes after but always incorporated within my own personal experiences. Sometimes these changes can happen in a few weeks to a few months.

This is a strong belief that I have and it also answers the question as to why some people get attunements and feel nothing. It really requires hard work and effort as any true powerful gift does. Unless of course you have earned it in another life-time and in this lifetime it presents itself to you without any effort on your part.

I say this because I know a truly powerful healer, who received her gift after a near death experience. But not withstanding that kind of gift, for the most part ,we, the common person, must work for the gifts in a spiritual way, learning the spiritual laws, living those laws and clearing our own energy fields (by addressing and facing our true-selves).